Author: Arlene Englander

Letting go of outcome

Did you ever have a bothersome notion that you couldn’t shake, an unusually focused presumption about something that was so persistent it played in the mind constantly and even got in the way of going about the day as we

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What do you need it for?

Leaving the house earlier in the week I found myself oddly nervous and delightfully excited as I trotted off to my first day at school. Yes, back to school after all these years. Will I be using my new found

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There are many types of intelligence

This is the month when another class of graduates leaves the cloisters and ventures into the world at large. The diploma awarded, however, does not mark the end of one’s education. The walk across the stage is only a rest

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Happy ‘Good Enough’ Mother’s Day

From the very start, a mom’s love holds us up and never lets go. Hallmark Card – $3.99 One hundred and forty-one million of us will send our mothers flowery, emotion-filled Mother’s Day cards this month without thinking about how

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Life happens for us, not to us

“If I could have one moment free from stress I would know true happiness.” It is unsettling to note how often I have heard that lament over the years. Increasingly it appears as if we are fated to cope with

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Don’t worry, be happy

The realization that a goodly portion of the fears and tensions that bedevil us are self-induced is not a new psychological insight. This delicious, tongue-in-cheek nugget attributed to Mark Twain was penned more than a hundred years ago, “I have

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Why Intimacy is both rewarding… and intimidating

The merchants ardently promoting Valentine’s Day would have you believe that true love is delivered in a box of chocolates or bouquet of flowers. If only it were that easy. Lasting love is built on a foundation of trust and

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Have you made your New Year’s Intentions?

It’s a good feeling to list your resolutions for the New Year, looking ahead so confidently toward reaching your objectives: losing weight, reconciling with an estranged family member, taking that long-postponed trip to the Greek Islands. But come the end

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America looks different this morning

My husband posts a weekly piece on the Chicago Tribune’s digital blog. His commentary immediately after the election reflects the apprehensions of many Americans and echoes my own concerns. As a nation we cannot allow ourselves to normalize bigotry and

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Why are we so unhappy?

May I offer a perplexing concept: is it possible that we have been trained to be unhappy? Think back at what we have been told are the relationships and ‘things’ that we must have in order to be ‘happy:’ taking

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