Author: Arlene Englander

A difficult year ends with optimism… and determination

There were times this year when a stretch of front-page headlines in 48-point Helvetica-Bold reported unendingly about a world shrouded in relentless gloom. For months on end the captions were ominous, cumulonimbus clouds carrying warnings of clamorous, divisive politics, increasingly

The opposite of evil

The horrific events of the past weeks – and of the past few years and of the past centuries – cannot be ignored. These crimes against humanity were not random events; they were choices by people who came from a

Finding peace in a world of chaos

Two and a half years ago I posted an Update that focused on the same dilemma, how to live with open hearts and love for fellow man when the world around us was on the brink of madness? Regretfully, the

Emoticons are not substitutes for genuine emotions

Today the Cloud rains data and there is no place to hide from the torrent of information, be it fatuous, inane, or profane. When the Internet was introduced, information was transmitted at the rate of 1,000 bits a second. Today

In the midst of a discrepancy

The tears in my office flow from familiar stories about growing up as a kid who experiences what he/she has been taught to believe is ‘love’ when in reality the behavior is anything but. The emotional confusion that results from

The not so merry go round

If there is one common trait found in all of us it is the propensity to stay stuck in the past. Literally thousands of articles and books have been written about this fruitless endeavor, an illusion that the carousel can

The pain is in the brain

There are 100 million Americans who suffer from chronic back and neck pain, fibromyalgia symptoms and other forms of pain. The standard treatment: opiods, prescribed at a level of 640 morphine milligram equivalents per person, actually down from 782 milligrams

Stop “should-ing” all over yourself

I heard this harshly descriptive headline from a client. She told me it was what her father would say to her when she got caught up in second-guessing after a project didn’t meet her own high bar of success. He

The Middle Way

I watch it occur in my office so often: the mind racing madly to escape a situation that exists only because of having fallen victim to some version of the idealized notion of who we think we ought to be,

Reminding ourselves of the basic tenets of happiness

Money can’t buy it. As each generation approaches their senior years, a common understanding prevails, a person can have all the luxuries in the world, but without love, they mean very little. Ultimately, the lesson is learned, you simply can’t

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