I make it a point cautioning newcomers to therapy about what to expect from the process. Breaking free from the old patterns that bring us pain is not an overnight event. At times, you might feel worse before you feel better (which actually is an indication that treatment is working!)

Often, the steps you take toward bettering yourself require new boundaries and altered relationships with colleagues and loved ones. That can make staying the course difficult as the newfound growth that frees you from co-dependency can confuse and even anger friends and family members who held undue claims on your independence and happiness.

You can explain what you are doing, but understanding is their responsibility: the path to wellness is a singular event. Far from the comfort of the therapist’s office, toiling in obscurity on the streets of Calcutta, Mother Teresa understood that truism well. Here are excepts from a poem she wrote on the wall of her home for children, titled:

Do it anyway

People are often unreasonable, irrational and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.  Be honest and sincere anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.  Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.

 Therapy is a journey of self-discovery. The therapist guides you and provides a bond that supports you throughout. External influences can be supportive or can hinder the process, but ultimately you are the navigator of a highly individualized process, an exploration of your past experiences and their influence on your mental health.